Save the Dates, Wedding Invitations and getting an effing RSVP!

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Save the dates, Wedding Invitations and getting an effing RSVP in the digital age presents a new set of challenges. With bazillions of communication methods you’d think it would be easy to let people know you are getting hitched, and more to the point, get a response.

But NO!

People are busy and have different preferred methods of communication, and some, well, some people seem to have forgotten how to communicate altogether. So how do you send Save the Dates, Wedding Invitations and get an RSVP these days? Let’s talk about things you can do to improve your RSVP rate.

Save the Date

First up, let’s address why you even need to send a Save the Date. Well, the thing is, you don’t. But if you do, you are more likely to get as many of your guests to the wedding as possible. Especially if they have to travel. If you’re having a destination wedding, they might want to book some holidays. It also buys you some time in terms of firming up the details of your big day. So it’s a pretty good idea all round.

You can start organising this while you’re venue shopping then get these babies out there the moment you have a date LOCKED IN – this usually means you paid the venue deposit.

Now the format – the only limitation here is your imagination (ok and maybe your budget) And you may choose to use several different methods in conjunction.

Make sure you include the date, your names and the location – this can simply be the city for now.

Wedding Invitations

Again – the sky is the limit here, I have seen everything from hand made/DIY invitations to full stationery suites from designers. I’ve seen emails and websites and videos. Here are some ideas.

1. Snail Mail $-$$$$$

I’m a stationery nerd. I love nothing more than to receive special fancy mail, in real life, in my actual mail box. If this is the route you would like to take you’ll need to gather everyone’s actual postal addresses (does anyone do this anymore?) in which case you will probably be speaking to people via text and email. Snail mail is beautiful and traditional but will add a few weeks to the process once you have gathered the information, had something printed or made then actually posted those bad boys. So don’t leave it to the last minute.

Be sure to include all important information required – time, place, dress code, set the guests expectations here (“cocktail hour”, “degustation” “BBQ”), maps, accommodation information, transport information.

It can be beautiful and personal, and then you already have everyone’s addresses for the invitation.


Two from Etsy, Left image is from Little Red Press London, and on the right from Hunter and Co Designs.


These are both DIY Save the dates from Martha Stewart Weddings

Other postables I’ve seen that are fab – Magnets (great for not losing the information!), Calendar stickers (for the old school amongst us), Pencils – engraved with the information. Check out my Wedding Stationery Pinterest Board for more ideas.

2. Digital Methods

Digital save the dates and invitations can be great when you use several methods of communication together. There is a risk of information getting lost in spam filters etc, but you have many different options for sending people to your information

Wedding Website – $-$$$$$.

For the digitally savvy, you can set up a wedding website for very little cost using services like Square Space. The benefit here is you can add information as you confirm it, you can keep directing people to the website, even including an RSVP form which will email you who is attending. For those less web friendly, there are plenty of services out there that will set it up for you. Here’s a fabulous article about “wedsites”


Check out the cute Wedsite above.

The following methods are a whole lot less personal and may not sound as beautiful, but used in conjunction with other methods, these cheap (if not free) digital methods can make it a whole lot easier to get your invitation to, and RSVP back from your wedding guests.

Email – $0 – it may sound silly but you might get a whole lot more responses this way – you can also use a service like Mail Chimp to design up a beautiful email. (you can also see how many of the emails were actually opened and read this way too)

Facebook Event Page – $0 – ok so sometimes it’s impossible to get folks to RSVP to anything on Facebook, but it can’t hurt to try – its free after all :)

Calendar invite – $0 – not as silly as it sounds – why not send a google calendar invite to your guests – it goes straight into their calendar and can also offer you insight as to whether they are saying YES to attending.


These things will help you get your information out there, check out my next post for seven ways to get an RSVP, coming soon.

Pictured Invitations at the top are from Venamour


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